Learn to listen to your girlfriend.
Communication is one of the most effective tools toward a lasting relationship. This means you're going to have to advance past your grunts and groans when your girlfriend seems to be rambling on and instead genuinely take an interest in communicating with her clearly. You don't have to be a world renowned public speaker to keep the conversation rolling.. Simply being a caring listener and providing feedback is enough to keep a good chat session going.
Instructions
1. Get to know her. Ask questions about her life like her family upbringing. Share stories about differences and similarities among you two as you were growing up. Perhaps she was enrolled in a private school growing up and you remember when your mom tried to home-school you. These details will not only keep a good conversation going, but will help you to learn more about her and some of her hidden personality traits.
2. Take interest in things she does. Notice the registration form she posted on the refrigerator to remind her to sign up for the company softball team or a social media marketing class. Ask her about some aspect of her life that she's currently involved in and find out why she chose to participate in it.
3. Ask about things that bother her. When she's had a hard day and needs to vent, don't simply nod while she's going on a rant. Pay attention to what she's saying and ask follow-up questions. Her main purpose for venting is getting it all off of her chest. But when you actually pay attention to her problems, it will help you spark conversation later where you can ask questions like, "So did your boss ever get that report done?"
4. Give her some of you. Share stories with her about your life. Make it a point to ask about her day daily, but be willing to share details about yours as well. A conversation is a two-way street, so be sure to keep the lines of communication welcoming for her to learn more about you as well.
5. Listen intently. Be sure to listen to what she's saying. Here you will learn a lot about what makes her tick. The more you listen, the more you will hear what she actually has to offer, her common complaints and her desires.
6. Express your emotions. Show vulnerability when you feel it. Let her see a deeper side of you by resisting the urge to hold back. You will have richer conversation when you open up and share your feelings about things that bother or excite you as well.
