You can become a great conversationalist with practice.
Conversation is a learned art that plays a major role in most facets of life. Unfortunately, minimal emphasis is placed on good communication skills. As log as you are intentional, you can successfully build upon skills you already possess to either participate in or lead productive conversations.
Instructions
1. Assess your audience and the atmosphere of the gathering, then gear your comments accordingly. For example, you would address a business professional in a business meeting differently than a close friend at an informal gathering.
2. Conclude the purpose of your interaction. This may vary somewhat from person to person but be aware of how your personal demeanor will affect the entire group.
3. Observe and listen. Actively listening makes your counterpart feel respected, understood and is how you can learn much valuable information. Observing and listening are the most important tools you possess. Also, never interrupt and refrain from negative body language, regardless of your opinion of the subject matter.
4. Address relevant issues under discussion when it is your turn to speak. Ask nonintrusive questions, mirroring something previously stated and bring others into the conversation. Strive to make all participants feel included and important and make no attempt to be the center of attention.
5. Keep conversations as lighthearted as possible; however, be very careful when using humor. Do not tell a joke or use sarcasm unless you are 100 percent positive it will be well received and will not offend.
6. Never gossip. Keep all matters confidential. Relaying seemingly harmless information can ruin relationships, potentially costing you friendships, future opportunities or even your job.
7. Practice. When honing your conversation skills, practice is essential. The more you socialize and put these tools to work, the more instinctive and fluid they will become.
