A charismatic conversationalist influences others with his presence.
Being a charismatic conversationalist is not about dominating all your conversations; rather, it is about influencing other people with your presence by harnessing the power of your personal attractiveness. A charismatic conversationalist spends a lot of time listening and directing the conversation to areas of mutual interest. To be charismatic, you must exhibit the personal qualities associated with a strong presence, such as confidence, mystery and charm.
Instructions
1. Stand tall and display a strong physical presence. Body language is a critical component to any conversation. Make sure your body language is confident and respectful throughout the conversation.
2. Act in a natural and patient way during conversation. Do not appear to be in a hurry; take your time so that you appear to have control over yourself and control over your time. When you display patience, you also exude confidence because you appear as if you will get everything you want in the long term. The goal is to be externally confident and internally relaxed.
3. Exhibit a mysterious persona. Be unpredictable in your words and actions to create an air of anticipation for what you will say next. Do not reveal all of your intentions right away; allow the conversation to develop with the other person before showing him all of your cards. You may want to go a different direction with the conversation based on what he reveals.
4. Cooperate with your conversation partner rather than competing with her. The goal of a conversation is not to turn the attention on yourself the whole time. Everything you say in a conversation is either attention-giving or attention-getting. While you certainly want to add your own interesting opinions and ideas, this is not the primary purpose of the conversation. A charismatic conversationalist works hard to draw out the other person's opinions and feelings on the subject matter. People find you charming when you are focused on their needs and what they have to say.
5. Ask interesting and relevant questions about the topics your conversation partner introduces. A charismatic person gives high-quality supporting questions that help the other person along, such as, "Why did you think that?," or, "What happened next?". Supportive questions show your interest in the other person, and they also give you the opportunity to make the person feel interesting, which will make you more charismatic and influential.
